Check the following:
If you answer no to question number 1, you need to install the drivers before doing anything else. If you answer no to question number 2, make sure that you have a good connection (ie. the cable is properly connected). Try to disconnect the phone, power cycle it, and reconnect it. If still no connection, you should uninstall the drivers completely and reinstall a fresh set of drivers from: motodev . You will have to sign up for free as a developer in order to download this latest set of drivers. If you answer no to question number 3, then make sure that you have one of those applications running in the background FIRST and leave it open while you work in p2k commander or p2k seem.
IF you can answer yes to all of those, you might want to try doing things in a different order. I have seen issues where phones have difficulty connecting when doing things in the order listed in the guides section. Actually, my phone is one that had these issues. To try to correct things, do the following:
if you already have drivers installed, skip to step 4